So Sorry for what you're going through! Please Do not give up! Hugs. i agree with the wise and wonderful sarahsweets about asking you whether the counseling you plan will be virtual. In any case, i think it may be worth it to give it a try at least. i think i can understand how such news may be shocking to you but i don't think you're alone. i don't have any first-hand experience with marriage counseling but i think it has the potential to work out if the couples are serious about it i Hope and i believe. i think it is good that at least your Husband seems willing to want to improve or at least it seems i Hope and i believe. Please Do update us if possible if you want to obviously. Love. Sending many Safe, warm hugs to BOTH you, @Lemlot, your Family, your Friends and ALL of your Loved Ones! Keep fighting and keep rocking NO MATTER WHAT HAPPENS, OK?!