In a way I can relate, but I will say that being hard (aka not using “soft words”) doesn’t often benefit OPs trying to get advice or support for their issues. Not saying you do this, but if a person shows no empathy for others and judges them as ‘lesser’ for having feelings, very few people would want them as friends.
Even Gordon Ramsey, who is paid to get angry and break other people’s spirit on tv, was concerned about this guy who was experiencing PTSD symptoms on his show.