You sound rather defensive about this - perhaps I'm just reading you wrong. What/who are you feeling the need to defend your relationship against?

Personally, I don't get the whole online relationship thing, but I'm admittedly older, was married for 34 years, and can't imagine not having experienced my husband entirely - physically, sexually, emotionally. We had children together. We traveled together. We supported each other quite literally through sickness and death. So I don't get how a relationship can be based on anything less than reality.

(And I am a very spiritual individual, but would never equate my human relationships to my relationship with God. Not the same thing at all. "Loving" someone and being in true relationship with someone are really not the same thing. Not fully in my experience.)