I would perhaps be a bit gentle with your T. Their intentions were good and they had no way of knowing that your family was not going to acknowledge this occasion in any way. It sounds like THAT is what is really making this whole situation hurt so very much... the contrast between what your T did and what others in your life did not do.

I know it really hurts right now. I would maybe give it a little time and see if you don't feel differently with some time. I would feel hurt and angry and loss of other things besides if important people in my life, or people who were supposed to be important, ignored a key occasion.

But why take that anger out on your T? Unless they invited other people from the office into your therapy session for a party, they didn't do anything unethical. I can understand if you are just not a party person or don't like surprises... but it seemed like you were delighted at the time? It was only after the fact, when you compared it to how others in your life were behaving, that it became tarnished and painful. Maybe Work on reframing that a bit if you can?

That's just my perspective. I'm not saying it's the right one; I'm just offering a different view. Your pain is quite valid, though, and it does hurt to feel like your T is the only one who really cares.

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