I think it depends on the type of modality they use and the issues they are willing to treat.

So for some - caring and not getting entangled in your hurt - even if it is them that hurt you is par for the course. Part of keeping boundaries and so on.

Given what's been going on with me and my T for the last month - a part of me hopes she cares enough to have gotten pissed at my reactions/behaviors and used her own outlets to address it. And maybe a bit guilty. Because having both those reactions would mean our connection is one of humanity - I am touching her humanity just as she is touching mine. Granted I've been with the same T for 6 yrs - doing attachment based therapy, if it's all been a lie/illusion - then I hope I never really wake from that part of it. She's stated she cares and sent thoughts of comfort - really, I get to choose if I believe/trust her or if I don't. And there are parts that still don't trust her and others that completely believe and trust her.