I think online relationships are okay as long as you both agree you will only ever interact in cyber-space. The online relationship i tried recently which was highly pleasurable online imploded when we tried to take it IRL and have him come visit me even tho i was going to have him stay in a guest suite and we would both be behind locked doors and have private time for sleeping and only interact in public settings. He backed out of it, said it would be too stressful, it was also a seven-hour drive for him. If we had just been happy staying online, we'd still be together now.

Some of you might have seen the thread on online marriage here on this forum. While this idea seems absurd, there are advantages to it. No picking up his dirty sock, not having sex when you don't want to, out of a sense of obligation and "wifely duty" like i suffered with for seven years and has screwed me up re sex for life. Having all desire for sex pounded out of me for seven years really made me conflicted about sex. And i'm an eejit about it now, desire mixed with repulsion.

I think an online marriage would suit me just fine. I know the guy i interacted with recently was at his best in print (email) and we both found ZOOM too intense. I'd love to be online married to him, but he confided in me his extreme co-dependence and i over-reacted and dumped him out of a concern for my own self-protection.

Maybe it was for the best, but i miss him and feel so alone without him. So few people "get" me, like the art i like and can comment intelligently on it, so few people have the time for me and yet this guy did and i dumped him out of fear that he would end up hurting me, when really he probably just wanted a few comforting words and maybe some direction in his therapy.

So that's all on me. Impulsiveness, to my eternal regret.