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eskielover · Sep 04, 2021 at 05:49 PM

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Originally Posted by rdgrad15

Yeah that can be annoying when you want something done and you are not satisfied. I used to be like you and continue to complain about it but not anymore, I just give up or if it's something I can fix myself, I'll just do it alone.

I usually try to use my energy coming up with a solution instead of complaining. Problem with complaining is that it is like picking a scab on a sore. It keeps the sore a sore & accomplishes nothing in either the healing or solution process. I am a logical problem solver. I may express my concerns about a problem to see what others might be thinking about it....then I go to work at finding what action I need to take to make a difference regarding it in my life. Sometimes others join in, sometimes not. Only time I will give up is when I have deemed the cost is too great & outweighs the benefit. (Dealing with this ? in legal action against my EX)