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Old Sep 06, 2021, 02:53 PM
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Originally Posted by wildflowerchild25 View Post
Spent the day with my SIL and brother. She helped me make my wedding bouquets, they’re very pretty! It didn’t take very long, I didn’t really need help I just needed to figure out how to actually put the together so they wouldn’t fall apart. She helped me wrap ribbon around them. I don’t see them very often so I ended up staying for awhile and then they invited RS and my son over for dinner since they were making so much.

(May be triggering to substance users)
Now listen, I love my brother and SIL to DEATH but they are very heavy drinkers (alcoholics in my opinion but it’s not for me to tell them, they’ll just get defensive). I usually only stay a couple of hours and leave when they start getting messy. They actually kept it together for quite awhile, they did start drinking when I first got there but they weren’t pounding them back like they usually do. So we stayed for quite awhile. Until she turned on music and started singing to it, that’s her tell that she’s had too much lol and I definitely get going then.

Emotionally I’m doing well, I was so anxious about returning to work but it wasn’t a big deal at all so that really made me feel better. Like I was worried everyone was going to make a big deal about me coming back but most people just said that it was nice to see me and left it at that. Much better than I anticipated.

I meet my student on Wednesday and I’m really happy to be working with her, I think I can help her at least feel comfortable at school. Apparently her family treats her like crap, but only her, she’s like the black sheep and that’s just so terrible. I think I can make school a safe space for her where she can be herself and not worry about getting insulted/laughed at. At least I can try. Definitely can’t fix her and I’m not trying to but I hope she can feel better about being there.
Hey !

I'm glad things are starting to come together piece by piece for your wedding I just want to say I've see you here since day one and you have been through such enormous roadblocks and heartbreaking grief. But you have found your way and still are working through alot but I am so happy that you met RS because you deserve all the joy possible in your life. I know you doubt at times that you deserve it.. Well you damn sure do

Ahhh family that drinks. My Aunt and Uncle in Florida also would start drinking and it didn't take long for it to become a terrible situation. From day 1 they would argue in front of anyone ( sober and worse drunk) which I have always been one to never have an argument in front of anyone, once alone I would address it and that was with anyone like my first husband, family or even friends. So all of us would make an exit. Very sad. They eventually divorced and neither one thinks alcohol played apart but we all saw in the screaming neon colors.

I'm glad you have a student that really needs that safe place. I'm sure as she gets started with her life away from a terrible home life that she will look back and remember you, someone that helped her in a much needed time in her life..
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