I’d consider what I had with my first “proper” boyfriend “real” - we only met in person once, were pretty young too, but it was the nicest romantic relationship I’ve ever had. I don’t hate men, but looking back at all the boyfriends I’ve had since, I wouldn’t bother with any of them if I had to live my life again. That’s not because I’m making comparisons and finding them wanting - even when I leave my online ex out of the equation, I realise none of them were really that nice or valued me as a person.