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@BorisTheAnimal:
What options do you have in terms of getting yourself some help with your dad? One member on another forum had a community social worker in to help give some direction on what services are available for help with her disabled brother and aging mom. I felt that was really smart!
Is that a possibility for you?
I know my mom behaved badly towards the end of her life with COPD. She was very childish and impatient and intolerant and complained viciously at the slightest discomfort. I'm sure it was because she was in so much pain but it was still hard to put up with.
She embarrassed me in front of my in-laws when she visited me one time. We unwisely went out to dinner with them and our meals were late in arriving. She complained loudly and frequently and smoked endless cigs, these really stinky "More" brand cigarillos.
I've heard we are children at the beginnings of our lives and at the end. That was sure true for my mom.
I was shielded from the worst of it tho because i live in another city. My older sister bore the brunt of it. She'd take my mom shopping and have to threaten to take my mom home if she didn't behave, as you do a child.
My mom had a housekeeper in the last ten years of her life but no one else. She was fiercely independent. It's too bad because she wasn't eating properly at the end and weighed only 80 pounds.
My mom slipped into a coma and then died, so at least her death was peaceful. I'm sure she welcomed it at that point, she just did not enjoy life anymore.
Sending good vibes, it's not an easy situation.
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