I have this sinking feeling that I have taken a huge mis step by describing my feelings so openly. I think you will feel threatened. I feel threatened. Many of the words I used are your words, in fact some of the most intimate phrases are exactly what you have said to me. And yet, when I repeat them back to you, you become frightened. I am frightened. Why is it so much easier for us to work with my hostile side than my loving (such as it is) side?