Hello. I've been with my girlfriend for a while now and feel like she is the one. I love her very deeply and want to spend the rest of my life with her.

However, she was with her ex boyfriend for 7 years, who has a son that, although is not hers biologically, she (like she told me shortly after we first got together) apparently got very close with and considers hers. (Her sister even asks about him, and so does her mother which is pretty awkward, for me at least, usually.)

Now, I really try my best to consider and understand she knew the kid for pretty much those 7 years. But I can't help but feel kind of... I don't know, I guess 'weird' about her still considering him to be hers, and quote "him always being a part of her life".

I mean, it would be one thing if she was at least his biological mother I think, but the fact that she's not, and him "forever being a part of her life", means that her ex will inherently likely always be in the picture even slightly too (and I don't know the way she talks about her ex even, which she does somewhat often... sparks some concern or curiosity too, because she talks so horrible about him and how she hates him so much etc. etc. but... I don't know, that's a topic for another discussion lol), and I mean what about if/when we have our own kids? What about holidays?

I don't know, like I said I really try to consider the timeline and how she got close with him, especially since she wants her own kid, but I just can't help but feel... apprehensive or question it or just unsure about the whole thing.

I know it's ultimately up to me how I feel, but I'm just hoping to get some others' opinions and thoughts and outside views on the matter, if this is even something worth worrying or being uncertain about lol