you still love him it is clear. would he consider counceling together? it is alot of hard work. my husband now is a non communicator. we are struggling but now he is finally working on it. we had a talk last night. he did tell me he did not open up to me anymore because he is afraid I will leave him.. I told him hey honey we have been together for 11 yrs now and I am not going anywhere unless he does change. you just never know hon. good luck.