I’m not sure what to think of my mum’s behaviour here, but in short, I accidentally broke the lid when I leaned back too hard while sitting on the toilet last week, and it snapped in half. I did admit it, saying I think I leaned back too hard, but mum is still talking like she’s trying to figure out how it happened in her world, if something gets broken, it’s usually the cleaner’s fault. She doesn’t confront them, but I do get to hear her inner detective’s theories on how it happened (e.g. cleaner must have stood on top of or dropped something on it. I work as a cleaner myself and have dropped spray bottles on the toilet lids by accident, none of the lids got broken. Never had a reason to stand on one, either!).

I rarely get blamed for anything when it’s actually due; I either get blamed for stuff I haven’t done, or someone else gets held responsible (even if it’s only in her mind) for something I’ve done even when I lay out the facts. I don’t really get it.

Edit: I think an important distinction to make here is when someone else gets held responsible for something I have done, it’s usually been because I was trying to extricate myself from a relationship of some kind with a guy (romantic or platonic), and she was convinced it was because my friend at the time had influenced me. In truth, while said friend was supportive, it was entirely my own decision to leave.
I probably told this story elsewhere, but it was also apparently my fault my biological brother found me. (Yes, I told people I was adopted, it’s a part of my identity so why not?) But I had no clue I had siblings, because I never got told that.