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sarahsweets · Sep 25, 2021 at 01:37 AM

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Originally Posted by Kelly68

I do get this same advice from people I know. That he has to learn the hard way. I swore I wouldn't feed him and I am. But it is harsh, he's sleeping in a cold damp car *(where I live the temperature is getting too cold for this).... but it is his fault and he knows it.

do you live in the usa? Are you comfortable sharing a state? I have an uncanny ability for finding resources everywhere.

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He won't be allowed back in here by my landlord. Yes I supported him a lot. But, I feel guilty. A lot of parents have their own homes and have a place where their children can live. I used to have an apartment, but he also abused the priviledge of having a room, being fed and clothed, he had a good paying job. I had asked him to start contributing to the rent. I had advice from someone that it is wrong to expect a teenager to pay rent. I actually disagree. It shows responsibility on his part. I'm tried of this.

STOP feeling guilty for not having what you think is supposed to make you a good mother. You are a good one. Your son is not acting like a loving appreciative son.
Would you allow anyone else in your life to act like him and just accept that behavior and keep supporting that person? Most of us would show a person the door.

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Just today again, he keeps asking for food, and I'm the one paying for stuff... making it, bringing it out to my car that he's treating like crap. I love my son. The problem is it's hard to find housing, and the weather is turning cold. I've explained to him that a shelter might just have to happen. There aren't many around and they may even have a waiting list. If he wont go, I can't leave him on the street in winter. That's where I struggle, but I'm out of answers. I suggested he get himself addiction counseling and financial counseling, he just says I might need help but I can help myself. He's immature..... I appreciate the advice. I just don't want to see him suffering. He has no family but me to support him. I hope he gets counseling or a psychiatrist but I've asked what's happening with that, the answer is, it takes time especially with covid.

He will not starve or be on the streets. I can look deeper if you want to share some state or country info with me, even pm but no pressure just trying to help.