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Sep 25, 2021, 09:14 AM
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Member Since: Feb 2020
Location: In the desert of my soul
Posts: 7,728
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Originally Posted by Waterbear
My Ex T I used to be able to email and follow up with a quick text. Most times she would email back but if she was really busy she would reply by text briefly instead. On average I used to email once after each session, so twice a week mainly. The temp T I am seeing I can email and she will send a brief reply, just acknowledging my email, with a few thoughts and encouragements. The new T I am due to see I just learnt today would not reply to my emails. I have an issue with this. She said it is because she believes that there should be a safe container for the material in the session time, but the thing is, for me the work is ALL WEEK LONG. I give so much to my own growth here, art journalling, journalling, reading books, thinking, making connections, online research, building connections with people, developing my interests etc, that the work is so much more that just in the room. I am fully committing to the work and for her to say that there should be a safe container for it in the room is dismissing it feels, to the amount of energy that I have, and will continue to put it. I understand if she can't do therapy by email, really, but to read and send a brief reply to show me that she is walking this path alongside me is hugely important to me, and would enable me to open up in the session in a way that I think I would struggle to do if I felt like I was just a single hour of her week. Hmmm, yes, it means a lot to me it seems!
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I relate to this too, Waterbear. I used to send kinda long emails after a session because I used to explain myself better in writing than talking. She told me one time that clinically, she loved my emails because they gave her way more information to go on than she got from me talking. Which of course was the point of me sending them. I know I wasn't processing quickly during my session that the processing or whatever would happen on the way home or after I got home, hence the emails. It's gotten a lot better over time, slowwwwwwwly (she says I'm a "slow cooker", this I also know!) and I don't email her very often anymore, if I do it's just a short sentence or two just to clarify something. I have also always done a lot of my work between sessions - and sometimes I'd email her between sessions to send her whatever I'd been working on and ask her to hold onto it and "remind me to talk about it next time". That always worked well. When we did phone sessions for that period of time she lived out of state, I would always email her my dreams before my sessions, so we could better discuss them. We do a lot of dream work.
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