i used to have pretty much unlimited access to my therapist for many years. texts, emails...phone calls. but i became so dependent on these outside communications for reassurances that it ended up becoming a nightmare of me feeling despair if he didnt respond or didnt respond the way i wanted. it was a rollercoaster and i spent a large amount of time being distressed over it. and then i began literally harassing him to the point that he had to block me. im not proud of that. BUT after he blocked me and i chilled TF out with that stuff, ive felt so much more at ease and secure in our relationship. having BPD/ptsd and esp having trauma that directly relates to psychotherapy and a former therapist kinda set the stage for me to get severely dependent on my therapist , to the point that it was detrimental for both of us

so these days i only talk to T during appointments