Dear Winds ThatBlow,

Sorry that is happening to you. It once took me 13 years to get over a lost relationship and we were not even married, so I can definitely empathize with you.

What finally helped me was some advice a psychiatrist gave me. He told me to make a list of everything I didn't like about the person, everything that could have been better in the relationship but wasn't. I was to read that list at least three times a day. I don't know for sure, but I think that finally freed me and gave me some closure. I hope you can find something that helps you.

Sincerely yours, Yao Wen