(((((((((((( jbug & suzy ))))))))))))))))
Have you given yourselves permission to be happy yet? Maybe it can start with one small thing that makes you happy....giving yourself the permission to feel the happiness from that one small thing and refusing to allow any guilty feelings surface for it.
It may be easier said then done....but maybe worth a try? And I know it's hard to feel comfortable with something you are not used to feeling.....maybe by doing it little by little it can grow to other things, bigger things. I wish you both well....and I wish you both guilt-free happiness

sabby