Hello All,

I came to this forum hoping to be able to get some advice for something that happened not too long ago.

I was dating my boyfriend of three and a half years. We had our problems like any relationship, but no major problems. Most of our arguments were about really dumb things. I have kids and he was attached to them. Recently, he had a very bad thing happening in his life where his sister has a baby that will soon die. I've never been really close to his family until recently. I was there for him through the good and bad times and even comforted his pain. Well, one day I decided to cook a meal for him. We don't live together, so cooking was always an issue when it came to hauling all the food to his place, dishes, etc. After dinner we decided to watch a movie. While the movie was playing, I asked him about moving in together. He knew that if I'd move in together I would want to marry him. We had already discussed this before. He completely denied speaking to me about this by saying he never agreed to move into an apartment. Now, I told him that I wasn't picky and I'll settle for an apartment. I knew that both of us weren't financially stable for a house just yet. He mentioned the idea about moving out of state in three more years to a place I have never been. I told him I wanted to move in before three more years. Well, that was when he went irate. He started cussing and telling me that I wasn't worthy of marrying and asked me to get out otherwise he'd call the police. I took most of the stuff out of his place. I realized the next day that I left my kids bikes there. I sent him a text message the other day asking if I can stop by to pick up the bikes and he told me if I wanted bikes, I had to buy them. I don't understand why he had to take it out on the kids. He has no kids of his own. I spoke to his mother about what happened so she'd hear my side of the story. She told me that maybe he's stressed. I was angry because that should be no excuse. I've talked to him in the past about not taking out his frustration out on me, but he has such a hard time doing so.

It has been about a month since we last spoke. He ignores my calls, texts, emails, etc. What I'm wondering is why he took so long to tell me that I wasn't worthy of marrying him. I have done so much to help him out, yet he fails to see how much I did.

What are your thoughts?

Thanks.