Pdoc does and always has as it is a normal part of her communication style. She also easily moves between using my full first name and the shortened version I go by with friends.
T doesn’t and I can’t imagine him ever doing it. We haven’t talked about it but I think for him it would make it hard for him to stay in his role as therapist if he used terms of endearment or the shorter version of my name. He regularly tells me that he loves me, uses very nurturing vocal inflections and will hug me. At this point with him saying he loves me and all the ways he will show care through touch I think it would freak me out if he called me hun or sweetie. And… if given the choice I will gladly take the physical demonstration of care over terms of endearment. I would be totally OK if he used the shortened version of my name.
Art T… we are still pretty early in our journey together. She has not used a term of endearment with me but it wouldn’t shock me if she did. I do think it would bug me a little as it would feel more demeaning coming from her than it does when Pdoc does it. Now that I am pondering though… I may see if she would be open to using the shortened version of my name. As playful and sisterly as she is when she isn’t deep diving the short version of my name may be more fitting.