You need a good marriage counselor. See if there's a Partial hospitalization program or an intensive outpatient program. Don't make any major decisions while he's in episode. As a mom with mental illness with a "child" (he's 19) with mental illness. I wouldn't change it for the world. Our lives look much different than "normal family's" but we are really close. We each have a team (dr, therapist and case manager) that can and do talk to each other. So that's 7 professionals (we share a psychiatrist) that keep tabs on how we're doing individually and as a family. I suggest you get a team together (individual therapists, marriage counselor to work with your (If you have one) and his psychiatrist.) This has prevented so many almost separations.