I agree you need to figure out what you want in your life.

Honestly I think your husband makes some good points. YOU chose to be with him. A child doesn't get a choice.

Why do you feel tricked? Do you think he's always felt that way or is it possible he changed his mind after his last depressive episode? It's understandable a major thing like that has made him reconsider. It's not fair to be angry at him for thinking about the potential baby's wellbeing.