He is being pragmatic, realistic, and even responsible about having children. I wish ALL parents considered this before having kids.

Besides, he did not say an outright 'no' to having children but yes, there IS a lot to consider. It *is* true that MI can be 'inherited'. He didn't say this to hurt you but it is true that it can take a toll on both parents *and* the kids.

This is definitely something you, both, need to address. Professional help may facilitate this conversation and/or ensuing options or alternatives.