My boyfriend decided he wants to get a pet. At first he was thinking about a dog. I reminded him that it might interfere with his lifestyle since he likes to have his freedom to do things, and he agreed. But he is still looking for another pet. He lives an hour away, so if he were to spend the weekend at my house, he would not be able to be there for the pet. He is thinking he can choose a pet where that would be possible, but I think a pet requires more than that. Now he is focused on other kinds of pets, but they require care too.

I want him to be happy, but at the same time, I entered this relationship knowing that we are free to do what we want at any moment since we both do not have children, and he likes traveling (which is something I want to do more of.). Having a pet would mean that I would have to go over there all of the time, and I want to at least be able to have my boyfriend come to my house and stay over on some weekends sometimes. I know that he likes doing this too, but I don't think he fully grasps all of the responsibilities that it takes to have pets. For some reason, this whole situation upsets me a lot more than I have been willing to admit. Sometimes I have a hard time asserting myself when I think that I am being selfish, but I can't help that I have certain needs.

Would it be selfish if I shared this with him, or should I just be supportive?