I have not had much depression for a while due to medications and knowing what I need to focus on when I feel it emerging. That said, I now do a much better job recognizing when a question is truly a question verses an accusation. There are people who ask questions (about both the obvious or leading questions meant to lead you down a path in order to corner you) that are actually accusations of myself or others. I do a lot better job now of not really responding (something like, "I know, sorry", of course, sometimes I do owe an apology but I no longer let them go on and on tearing me down). IMO, there are people in this world that knowingly (they enjoy seeing others suffer) or unknowingly (they could have an anxious, fearful, complaining kind of depression--IMO, there are many types of depression--some people with depression have a loving core and never take their negativity out on others) stir up trouble because of the disconnect that they are feeling inside. Also, some people who have negativity (most?) are just hurting--perhaps they haven't received much love but we have to be careful to not show them our most loving side while they are being extremely negative (when they dismiss our love by saying it is fake, etc--basically tell us we are terrible people when we are trying to do our best). This can be exhausting and pull us down into depression too.