Not selfish. When my husband and dated we lived close to two hours apart. And we worked opposing schedules and demanding jobs, in fact I worked two jobs so dating was hard. I didn’t think I had energy to even go on with this.

If my then boyfriend said he is getting new pets (not talking if he already had pets) and having those pets will make our dating harder, I’d not be supportive at all and I think I’d probably wonder how committed he is to us and our relationship if he is willing to create yet another obstacle.