I'm so sorry you are in this position... I wouldn't say "no way should you feel scared of your therapist" because I always feel a lot of fear in therapy, from the very nature of being vulnerable, but this sounds totally different. I guess for some people this style will work, but it doesn't sound like you are getting on with it, and neither would I personally. If it were me, I would walk away and try and find someone else with a gentler style of working.

It reminds me of when I was in the Navy and trying to climb the ropes. I simply didn't have the strength or the skill to be able to do it but the PTI would just stand there and yell at me to climb it. I was always like "no amount of shouting at me or telling me to just do it is going to help me achieve this". All it did was make me feel stupid and weak and hurt me.

You have a choice here. Don't let her take that away from you. Decide what is right for you and then follow your heart.