I subscribe to a modified spoon theory. Where when we're "up" we steal an unknown number of spoons from ourselves. That we then deal with when we are "down". Everything takes spoons and we're blind to how many we have in a given day. So what helps one day may be just to much another day. Just dealing with anxiety steals spoons.

Grab spoons or Straws and do the exercise with your wife. go through a week or two "day" by "day" It'll take about an hour but I find it the easiest way for people to understand BP and other mental illnesses.