One complicating factor is that I have zero interest in seeing this person and negative interest in the trip over all. I hate going every year. I am willing to meet anyone outside but we stay at this person's house and usually go to an indoor restaurant or bar.


I am not sure if he is high risk anymore. He is in remission and has early stage COPD (so not treated, just something to look forward to in the future), but has also been vaccinated. I am younger but fatter than him and have diabetes.


I do think how much you want to do something affects risk tolerance. I see my unvaccinated brother and don't really think about catching Covid from him even though he works with the general public. A vaccinated family member is flying into town and I will see them even though airplanes seem like incubators and he's coming from a place with poor vaccination rates. I am taking a risk to see those people but the risk is worth it for me. Taking that risk to do something I don't want to do does not seem worth it.


But if he goes without me and catches it, I will get it anyway. Sometimes it feels like taking precautions is a waste of my time or excessive given my age and vaccination status.