I don't know much about dependent personality disorder. I wish I knew what to say to help. It sounds like you are doing all the right things. I have a personality disorder too, a different one than yours. We don't ask to have these things written into our very being. It's not like we choose them. They are heavy burdens to bear. I think you are very heroic and noble to be doing what you can. Sorry I do not know how to be helpful.