I always enjoy your posts nowheretorun and have pondered for some time your choice of a user name...you are wise and know that there are always choices.

You seem to be a man of many contrasts,,one who has felt things deeply and has been given the gifts of compassion vs cynicism for your trials...

I don't know your present situation and even if I did I wouldn't be able to completely empathize because the bonds of Mother and Son are made of feelings that only belong to them...

But like they say on the airplane...give yourself the oxygen first for only when you are breathing freely can you hope to save another...

Take care of you and the path to helping Mom will become clearer...

IMHO

Lenny