He has said in the past that we are both to blame for the breakdown of our marriage because we failed to handle the situation as a couple, yet he will say frequently that “I” destroyed our marriage by being up in my head about things and hung up on my fear, so I feel like he blames me when he says this. He has always been more emotionally intelligent than I am, so I also feel like if he believes I deserve blame then I do. I don’t get people or emotions well, I never have. How can I forgive myself if he doesn’t forgive me? One of my current problems is that he will throw out a comment about how I destroyed our marriage, and it just knocks me down to such a low that I can barely function at all. The depression is so crippling. I need to try to process this hurt somehow.