struggling, for me it's been very important in my therapy that I like my T and he likes me. Before this therapist, I had another and I liked her OK but I can't say whether she liked me or not. I never got a negative or positive vibe from her. She was CBT; working together, within 6 months we were able to decrease my symptoms of major depression by 1/3. I don't think we had to really like each other a lot to do that. With my current T, I really, really, really like him and he really likes me too. I feel it. He's told me. We have a special bond. The difference is that this bond with this man is healing. It's not about reducing symptoms by a third, but about healing. This man is nice to me for one hour a week and we connect. Sounds so trivial but gosh I needed that after 20 years of marriage to a man who was never nice to me. It's just been so healing to have a male treat me with respect and caring. I don't think I could have received this healing from him if either he or I didn't like each other.

So I guess I would say it depends on what you need from therapy as to whether you need to like each other or not.