I hope class turned out okay. The entire incident is shocking. The woman who messaged you sounds unhinged and the instructor's reaction is inappropriate. If the instructors think you are the one behaving badly, they should tell you that, or tell you that they don't want to get involved, not put you on an ignore list. Even if this lady was right, reaching out to you like that is so messed up! It's not her job to tell other students how to act. It's the instructor's job.


Class dynamics are so weird. I had an incident in a class a few months ago and skipped a session because I just felt so awkward about it (and it was awkward for the rest of the time I was in the course). My husband is in a class now where other students were policing people's behavior about clean up to such an extent that the organization got rid of the requirement to pick up after yourself!