One, a t's prime directive may be "unconditional positive regard". Sorry, im a star trek fan. You cant get around the prime directive.

Two - god forgave us our original sin. Not to get religious, but enough people thought it was a good idea to make it a rule that people not have carp hanging over their heads FOREVER. Otherwise how can you live your life? You would always have an excuse for failure. When youve been neglected, not reflected back as a human being, its hard to know whats real and who you really are.

When you got a bad reflection, or even just because we are not perfect, we still have to put that into context OURSELVES. Like the first person a gay person comes out to is themselves.

My parents were so busy saying "dont be THIS" that they never acknowledged my many sundry millions of good traits. Thats like roller skating with wheels flying off.

Eta - ha! I havent had a good metaphor in a looong time!