She's caught up in a new life and probably will not ultimately return to your state. Also, you are still legally married. At best, you are a friend only - not a relationship. Not until you tie up that loose end.

Finish the business at hand and you will probably have better luck with women. Personally I wouldn't be friends or anything else with someone who is legally married, even if they've been separated for years. Just a bad situation and it also says you leave stuff undone (in your life) and that's definitely not what most women are looking for.