Is he a neat freak? I am, so I could kind of relate. I am not cussing or threatening people though.

What helps me to stop constantly freaking out is to have chore chart. We list what needs to be done during the week and assign chores. That helps me to not freak out if my husband sat down. As long as chores are done, sitting down is just fine.

Your husband needs to stop coming up with urgent tasks. If mirrors had to be cleaned up, it should be discussed ahead of time and planned accordingly. Could you suggest that? Also speak to him that you won’t tolerate abuse.

Would couples therapy be possible?