Welcome Clover,

I am truly sorry you find the need to come here.

I am a 66 year old man with three failed marriages, so take my feedback with a grain of salt. I am still legally married to my 3d wife, but we haven't lived together for 5 years, had separate bedrooms for 5 years before that. I work a full time job and four part time jobs. Though she and I can't live together (I'm terrible at relationships), she is a good person, I respect her and I fully support her, 100% financially. I'm even paying for her to go back to school for a Master degree right now.

No, I'm NOT a saint. Trust me, I have my issues.

Now, having said all that, I'm going to give you some blunt feedback from a man's point of view.

Your so called partner is a USER. He is using you and in the process emotionally and financially abusing you.

He has no intention of changing and won't, no matter what.

See what other's say, but that is my two cents worth.

You will be much better off to tell him to leave, file whatever legal paperwork you can to recoup your $ and NEVER loan another man a single dime, no matter what the circumstances.

Sorry, but I don't like to sugar coat things.

BOM