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Default Oct 18, 2021 at 06:38 PM
 
In addition to the above list for stalking victim resources, you can also:

1. Ask for assistance from a local and trustworthy church (if you don't have spiritual trauma or ritual trauma that triggers you too much).

2. Ask for assistance from some trustworthy friends within or outside the neighborhood, so long as none of them are connected in the past or present to your stalker(s).

3. Ask for assistance from some trustworthy friends outside of your state, too, just in case you choose to relocate safely - without your stalker(s) knowing.

4. Make a plan to relocate and start over, should that be the final resort.

You can start downsizing your items by selling or donating in safe ways - make sure you have someone with you when selling or donating (don't be alone, not even with volunteer donation pickup crews).

You can also write (not type) a list of possible relocation areas and jobs you can get, etc. You don't want to be cyberstalked either, so try to write things down and put them in a safe space, or, if you're good with memory, write them down in a coded way only you can decode - like assigning numbers and colors to certain places and things.

Stash cash as well as save money in your account, just in case - depending on how bad the stalking is (whether it be from a group, a family member or more, a past cult, an ex, an ex and his or her family, a person in a position of power like an ex who is a cop, etc.).

Figure out an escape plan - such as whom you can contact in a jiffy should you need a ride out of town or out of state, or should you need to store your items in an offsite storage while leaving a key with a trustworthy neighbor or friend while you take only what's needed to leave.

You can then ask your trustworthy friend to hire a moving company about 3 to 6 months later (or longer) to get the stuff in storage to you (unless mailing would be cheaper, so long as the stalker isn't monitoring your trustworthy neighbor by then). There are many options, depending on your situation. But this is a LAST RESORT.

5. If the stalker is in a position of power or works in any way for the government, you can also contact the FBI.

6. If you need to stay where you're at, then consider fighting for the long-run, and doing everything in your power to build "capable guardianship," meaning that you should build as much protection as possible.

Examples: a huge social circle of protective friends, a range of reports to law enforcement or otherwise just in case (if this deters the stalker in any way), notification to trustworthy coworkers or your boss (if possible), an alarm system for your home, a protective guard dog (or two), self-defense courses, etc.

This is the tougher route, unfortunately, since stalkers tend to get away with their crimes, or only get slapped with misdemeanor or short-term felony charges. Like domestic violence victims, reporting could exacerbate the stalker's behavior to the point that they escalate and become violent. You don't want this happening either. You want justice, but you also want to be safe and free. Having as many protections as possible builds enough "capable guardianship" to deter or ward off your stalker as long as possible - at least until you can eventually find the means to pack, leave, and start over. Unfortunately, this is what many stalking victims have had to do in order to move on.
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