Are you not married? How can he claim hat it’s “ours” money. Legally speaking it is NOT. Dude asked for huge amount of money before you two even lived together. Wow. He has no shame. He is using you so blatantly; it’s astonishing how he wouldn’t even hide his intentions to keep using you.

We can’t control other people or understand why they do do what they do. But we should try to understand why we do what we do and control our action. I’d focus on understanding why you were willing to support an able bodied man for so many years and why are you ok with him treating you as a free wallet for years!

I’d count my loses and move on before you reach retirement and have nothing to live on as you gave everything to this guy!