Thanks to all who answered. I talked to his ex this morning bc she called me to tell me that. She seemed serious about it and thought that I should know. Like I said I don't know if a condom was used or not. I know there were no breakouts atleast (no sores, etc. that were visible). I don't think I am showing any symptoms from what I have read about he herpes virus; but, still want to get checked and make sure. Can someone tell me: what I need to ask the doctor to do for tests or whatever... I guess I would like her to test for anything and everything she can; but, I know at my current state couldn't handle being scolded for it or anything like that and I know that would add to my stress right now. That would not be a good thing. I am going to try to be more careful at the very least. The problem is all men say (or so it seems) what you want to hear or what they think you want to hear. Never have I heard of any woman (including myself) being told that her partner had something he could pass on. I am thinking of calling a friend I went to college with. She said at one point she contracted something; but, did not say what. She would probably be able to tell me or have some idea about all of this because she works in a hospital as well, not as a career; but, it seems she has been working there even before school. I'm going to have to try and let it go for now and not worry about it so much. I know that's going to be very hard to do; but, it's the best thing and the only thing I can do for myself right now or atleast until I am able to be tested.