I am far from a qualified person to discuss financial matters or relationships but I'm going to share this with you because it happened recently and gave me perspective on what I want in a romantic partnership.

I confronted the person I had feelings for, and supposedly had feelings for me, with her lies and gaslighting. During this conversation where I was pointing things out, especially about not keeping her word, she said, "So, so what? Everyone breaks promises! It's not a big deal!" This was probably the most honest thing she ever told me about herself.

Um. Yeah, it kind of is a big deal if someone doesn't believe in honesty and integrity. I am a person who values honesty and integrity and I need a partner who feels the same way. How can you trust and rely on someone that isn't open, honest, or keeps their promises? Consistency is important. And to me, if someone is consistently going back on their word, making apologies but not changing behavior. To me that is manipulation.

These are just my thoughts. I don't like to tell anyone what to do because it's not my life, but what I did was consider what my values are, how important they are to me, and whether I can accept being in a relationship with someone who doesn't have them.

I've been taken advantage of financially, not by a spouse but by friends/roommates. And it's not a good, or fun, situation to be in. I chose to leave the situation even though it made me lose almost everything.

I am deeply empathic and sorry for your situation and I pray there will be a sound resolution and healing for you.