This is good advice! I appreciate it. Thank you all.
I realized I don't have to answer messages. If it makes people upset, oh well? I'm not obligated to talk to anyone. I don't owe anyone anything. As Billy Joel said, "Don't talk to strangers, don't ask me why." But yes, I'm going to have boundaries. I was accepting everyone and anyone at first because I'm still learning how to do this, now I'm looking at profiles and seeing what their content is. I'm looking at the picture content too. If it's not something I vibe with I deny the request. I can tell who's trying to sell something and who's there for other reasons. I'm getting a lot of single men and I'm like...don't care how attractive, wealthy, or whatever you are...I'm not interested. Because I'm not on there for dating or relationships. I'm just looking for friends or interesting content, to help me evolve or learn, get me thinking in another direction. To share some of my art and writing.
It's so interesting to me that these men think calling you attractive or beautiful or whatever would mean anything. I went through two months of being love-bombed and excessively complimented to the point it makes me feel sick, so when people compliment my appearance...it has no meaning to me. I think I'm very attractive. I don't need to hear it from someone else, and that is not the way to get on my good side.
Speaking of communication...do you know what is awesome? People recognizing your personality, soul, artwork, writing, poetry, or general creativity, your intelligence. Your achievements. Something you've overcome. The body and face is just a vessel, it's not the whole person or even the deepest parts of a person.
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