Yes there is someone out there for you and yes its going to take time. yes NY is going through many changes in the mental health field.

DID is a form of psychosis... I cant go into great detail but its a diagnostic change thats happening here in NY and possibly other places and so on.

you know how in the diagnostics it states "reality remains intact"

short version if when you change into one of your parts you become mute/ unresponsive/ catatonic/ hallucinations/ delusions / behaviors that are more consistent with the 1950's version of MPD, TV, Movies, Youtube and so forth instead what dissociation is today, or you have the kind of internal system where you have fictive/ pseudo/ or characterizations to your parts its called psychosis not dissociative.

my suggestion is dont worry that some agencies and treatment providers are looking closer to that diagnostic criteria and differentiating whether a persons DID is more psychotic symptoms and problems then dissociative symptoms and problems. and if they are more psychotic have them get a different treatment provider who is more able to treat psychotic problems.

instead aim for how you are feeling. dissociation is a normal response to a trigger.

Like the feeling of anger and mad.. when someone says something (trigger) you dont like you ..........feel........... angry. (response to the trigger)

with dissociation something happens (trigger) to make you ...........feel ..... a certain way (dissociation symptoms). reality remains intact.

treatment for dissociation is different than treatment for psychosis.

since you are aware enough to know you are dissociating in therapy a good place to start is noticing what the trigger is, then telling which ever treatment provider you are with something like I need to stop and tell you right now Im feeling... then describe what you are feeling. then do some grounding to get yourself more stable (less dissociated)

I know that the fact that some treatment providers are telling you, your DID is psychosis. it may just be that they need more information from you on what you are .........feeling....... vs what you believe when you are dissociating.

I know things are confusing right now with how NY is making changes to their mental health system. I hate it too. thankfully I have been longer term with my present treatment provider so we are able to fairly easily navigate the changes.

my moto take it one step at a time, it will work out in the end.