Hi,

Sorry your husband is like that.

It’s “our” money when it’s for things for both of us and we both consent to the expenditure.

Its totally out of order for him to not repay the money he borrowed, especially before buying a BMW! And totally unreasonable to refuse discussion. He’s not taking responsibility for himself and freeloading on you.

It’s not “our” money if it was your money and then he spent it on things for him, including failed business ventures.

I’m annoyed for you.