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Originally Posted by AzulOscuro
What a coincidence to find your post!
I’m very much at the same point as you.
For the first time in my life I’m accepting myself and this opened me a way to understand others better and accept them as they are. Taking with humor things from other that in the past used to bother me. I feel as a more compassionate person.
I understood, I don’t know if you agree, that when there’s a certain behaviour or an attitude from another person that bothers or upsets us, it’s a sign that something inside us is not very well.
In other words, it has to do more with ourselves than with the other person.
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My mom has some issues. My dad doesn't have empathy or much emotional expression. He's just, non-emotional. I saw him cry once in his whole life. My mom needs a lot of love and emotional support but my dad is how he is and can't provide it because he's incapable. I feel bad for my mom. But I also know you need to provide emotional love and support to yourself and can't just depend on other people to fill you with love. You need to fill yourself with love.
My mom is going into therapy and I hope she gets the help she needs. My dad has a different way of expressing love. Because I understand he loves me. He shows love through actions of giving and making things for those he cares about. Will he say, "I love you."? No. He rarely does that. He doesn't show physical affection. But I know he loves me because of all the times he saved me and helped me, and went out of his way for me.
Anyway, these are wise words and I'm glad you shared the with me!