Well I stopped by to post a short vent. I can't believe this thread is still alive.

Holy..... Nayr88 and witnessorange you guys hit some points that are awfully close to home.

So, what's new around here?

She heard me about my concern about her massive time investments into her new best friends when me and the kids waited our turn for so long. She us feeling better and retured some energy here. She is clearly trying.

She is working PT.

She is still ill so while I'm glad she's working PT it has increased my workload at home. I'm also alone more with the kids in the evenjngs and I kind of like that.

She says I'm not enthusiastic enough about dating but time together is often just one more role to fulfill. I don't get much out of it.

That's pretty bad isn't it.

I'm with my kids a lot. I have a rare job with a lot of autonomy and a lot of responsibility. My kids have been to my office and work sites with me often.

We undertook a home renovation because we had to and because we needed the equity. I did all the work.

Today a female coworker spoke about how awesome her husband is because he fixed the dryer and how lost they'd be without him. Then someone asked about my house. I show pictures of staging set, power tools and cords on the ground and me and my oldest replacing the siding together.

Then I say me and youngest made supper for two nights and are getting ready for Halloween.

The first woman asked Does your wife apreciate this? Because she should. I hope she rewards you for all you do because you deserve it.

Awkward silence.

I actually didn't know some men have that, that clearly.

It left me feeling not very good.

RDM