(((safe hugs and safe thoughts)))

I hope you are able to transition well from your current T/pdoc team to a new one. If you can at least keep your pdoc and find a new T, that might help.

It's not easy dealing with these life changes. It's hard to be appreciative of the time you have spent with safe ones, like your T and pdoc, when they are leaving for whatever reason. We struggle with the fear of losing people in our life, too.

We try to be more proactive these days by communicating, asking questions, asking for help with our transitions and emotions, asking for more support, expressing how much we'd miss them, etc. It's not always easy to do that, especially when so much is going on. But what helped us was writing down what we wanted to say and share before we said and shared those things.

Making a special card or writing a special letter for your T and pdoc might also help you find closure. Closure is important in these situations, because you want to be able to leave the relationship on good terms - ones you can have good memories of, even though you'll deal with the pain of missing them.

If you've experienced any kind of childhood emotional neglect (CEN), these good-byes are the hardest to deal with. They bring up so many painful emotions. Finding others - like here online as well as in person - will help you through the rough times and validate your feelings.

Hopefully your new T will be very kind, patient, and helpful during your transition.

Can your current T and/or pdoc recommend a T that is like your current T?