Thank you everyone for your responses to this thread. I really appreciate all of your personal anecdotes and philosophy and advice and appreciate you taking the time to share your own personal experiences here. This is what I value about this community so much.

It’s forcing me to re-evaluate how I respond to unplanned surprises. I agree with everyone who reminded me that patience is a virtue and not to beat myself up when I make mistakes, but to try to reframe my mistakes as learning opportunities. And practice reframing when the opportunity arises again, until it becomes a natural response to surprises, instead of a practiced and forced response.